CatholicMatch Personalized Messages Now Free To Read


We know being single can be difficult when you desire to meet that special person, fall in love and get married. We also understand the unique challenges of meeting someone online. Each day CatholicMatch looks for ways to help more single Catholics, like yourself, meet someone that could become their future spouse.

That is why has made a significant change to it’s communication feature in hopes that it will lead to more quality meetings and thus more real relationships and marriages. Non-subscribing users (free members), can now read all of their personalized messages 10 days after they are received. You will be notified via the email address attached to your account when messages are ‘unlocked’ and can be read.

Why let users read for free?

Unfortunately some companies in the online dating space have used deceptive practices in regards to communication. While CatholicMatch has never employed such practices, they realize that some users may be skeptical based on experiences from other sites and group them with others in the industry. By allowing messages to be read for free, CatholicMatch hopes that members will see that they are receiving messages from real Catholics interested in meeting other single Catholics like you. Even if you don’t get a message from someone you are interested in, it is the hope that these authentic messages will give you the confidence and broaden your reach to the people who are genuinely interested in you. CatholicMatch realizes that everyone has different motivations and timing for when he or she feels ready to purchase a full subscription. But by then you will know that when you subscribe, your messages will be read by all users and they will in turn want to subscribe so they can read your messages immediately and correspond regularly.

Currently CatholicMatch is providing this feature as a a three month test but may expand the program length and/or features if user experience is positive and there is a overall benefit to the site.

What does this mean for current paid subscribers?

Since you know every member will have the opportunity to read your message regardless of subscription status you will want to compose quality messages that can peak their interest. Because we are human beings and not robots we can’t always predict what will catch someone’s interest. It is up to you to send a message that will get her attention just like in the real word when you introduce yourself to someone that catches your eye. Free members are sometimes skeptical that they are receiving messages from real people who are actually interested in them. Therefore no matter how short your message make sure you personalize it for that specific person. Not only does copy and paste messages trigger the CatholicMatch spam filters but the people receiving them pick up on it as well. If you send standard introductions like “I really liked your profile would you be interested in chatting.” It can give them the impression you are saying that to everyone. Tell them why you like their profile or mention something you both have in common.

What paid subscribers should NOT do

The majority of members use CatholicMatch the way it was intended but there is always a small minority that try to get around the system and ruin things for everyone. Sending contact information (email address or Facebook, phone number etc.) the first time you initiate communication not only is against the CatholicMatch terms of use and will trigger our warning filters but often can scare off the member you want to meet. A very common tactic of a so called “scammer” or “fake account” intended to deceive will often include contact information in the very first message. Put your best foot forward and show a genuine interest in the person. Then leave the rest up to them and God. CatholicMatch has many successful couple stories where one or both people were skeptical before subscribing and responding. Don’t give the person you want to meet a reason to be skeptical. Your first message should be written as if you were introducing yourself in person.

Additionally, CatholicMatch is a business and like any business they have to pay their employees, health care, marketing costs, etc. It would not be possible to operate the site without revenue. CatholicMatch prides itself on providing the best and largest community for single Catholics at a great value. Providing a great service comes at a price. When some people try to cheat the system it not only hurts the business but it costs the honest members as well. While some people think everything on the Internet should be free or anything related to religion should be free, the reality is that is just not possible.

Message Interface Improvements

Although there were many technical improvements to the messaging system here are a few of the more visible interface changes.

  1. Emotigrams no longer have a character limit. Which means you can still send quick short messages with your emotigram but if you find yourself with more to say, you can just keep on typing. The reason why emotigrams are so popular is that they are casual and fun. They allow you to spice up a quick message or can act as a friendly or flirty intro to a longer message.
  2. When sending or replying the default view is the emotigram interface. You can quickly change to the plain message interface by clicking on the ‘message’ link in the top right corner of the interface.
  3. They improved the inbox view for both web and interface. There is now an (X) on each message in order to delete regardless if it has been opened or not. CatholicMatch also added a swipe feature to delete messages on your mobile device.

If you have any questions about any of the new features you can visit the help section where you can ask questions in the community help room, search FAQ’s or submit a help ticket.



  1. Connie-1432860 May 15, 2017 Reply

    how do you /or do we know if someone is a paid member? thanks

  2. Andrea-1436904 April 12, 2017 Reply

    I definitely agree with those of you who disagree with the personalized messages being locked for 10 days. It honestly is slightly frustrating and sad that I can see people sending me messages but have to wait 10 days just to open it and can’t respond to them. I signed up to meet and talk with other Catholic singles, not to send people emojis.

  3. Annette-371653 February 4, 2017 Reply

    I’m a marketing major so here’s my thoughts on how this influences Catholic Match’s business model:

    There are more free members than paying members (no secret there) – for simplicity’s sake let’s just say 30% are paying members and 70% are free (I’m sure this is a conservative estimate). It is unfair to penalize those paying members by making them wait 10 days to receive a reply from probably 70% of those they’ve messaged.

    Combine this with the internet – all it takes is a quick google search of someone’s school, name, and city to probably find other social media accounts elsewhere on the website. This takes traffic AWAY from catholic match. As time goes on this will increase – people’s search skills improve, and their love interest is more likely to have a social media account elsewhere on the internet. Traffic will further die down from Catholic match.

    We live in a drive thru society – from a business stance I think it would be wise for Catholic match to – at the very least – allow paying members’ messages to be read/replied to immediately, or perhaps delayed by 1 day. This will at least bring people back to the site messaging once/day instead of 3 times/month, only to leave them frustrated and seek communication elsewhere they can receive instant gratification.

    • Annette-371653 February 4, 2017 Reply

      CORRECTION: All it takes is a quick google search of someone’s school, name, and city to probably find other social media accounts elsewhere on the *web*.

  4. Ludmilla-1280543 April 30, 2016 Reply

    Thank you for your hard work! 🙂

  5. John-1181813 March 16, 2015 Reply


  6. Lai-1085586 May 2, 2014 Reply

    good news

  7. Brian-278516 April 7, 2014 Reply


    We actually are specific about including your personal contact information. The rule is that you simply not include it the first time you initiate or respond to an email This is for business, safety and overall experience of the site. After each person sends one message you are free to exchange any personal contact information you wish. But please always consider be safe and use common sense.

    As the article states all subscribers can send and read personalized communication anytime they wish. Only non-subscribers must wait 10 days before reading a message unless of course they subscribe then they can immediately read the message. Previously we did not allow non-subscribers to read messages so we have relaxed the rules some as an experiment in order to spur more communication between users.

  8. Cheryl-1019666 April 7, 2014 Reply

    When I joined this site I did not realize people could not read my messages right away. I did not realize this until I replied to an Emotigram and the gentleman replied back with an Emotigram having a message.. This interaction occurred for several times before I sent a ticket to ask I a free member could read my messages. Only after reading the answer from the ticket did I learn he could not read my message for 10 days. As a member who is paying about $30 a month, I feel my messages should be delivered right way. I thing when a non-subscriber gets an Emotigram with a message there should have been a statement that says “to read this message you must subscribe to the site”. I asked how many times people have to communicate back and forth using the Catholic Match message system and no number of times where given. The answer was several times. What is several—2 or 4 or 6. No one is asking that this site be free. However, if one pays to be on this site his/her messages should be delivered right away. This site should be able to tell me how many times we must communicate using this site before I am allowed to include my personal email address.

  9. Brian-278516 April 5, 2014 Reply

    @Linda I appreciate your concerns. We simply cannot give our service away for free. If someone wants to subscribe they can have instant access to everything. If they choose not to subscribe then they obviously have to wait and will not be able to enjoy all the features when they want it. Our model is very consistent with many online services such as newspapers, magazines, games, research sites etc,

  10. Linda-442926 April 5, 2014 Reply

    @Brian Barcaro – please read what you wrote because you’re stating what I already have. A non-subscriber cannot read a message for 10 days; the only way he/she can read instantly is if they subscribe, in which case he/she would no longer be a non-subscriber! Some people join the site in hopes of communicating, but for whatever reason cannot automatically become a subscriber just because he/she notice someone has messaged him/her and want to be able to read it instantly. If it were that simple, the person probably would have gotten a full subscription in the first place. Sometimes it’s a matter of financial inability and that shouldn’t inhibit communications to such an extent.

  11. Brian-278516 April 4, 2014 Reply

    @Ryan non-subscribers do receive and email from the site every time a personalized message unlocks.

  12. Ryan-803801 April 4, 2014 Reply

    I had no idea non-subscribers couldn’t read personalized messages in the first place! Definitely did not see that (and still don’t) in the FAQs. I agree with Linda though – 10 days is too long. In our hyper-busy world (which I’m NOT glorifying) the recipient could forget that they have a message waiting for them (unless CM sends a reminder at Day 10, which I hope they’ll do). Ideally I’d like all messages to be free to read instantly. I get the reason for charging for responses, but don’t understand what the 10 day limit is meant to achieve (and am definitely not happy about is as a paying customer). Please consider removing it altogether!

  13. Brian Barcaro April 2, 2014 Reply

    @Linda non-subscribers don’t have to wait 10 days to read a message. If they subscribe they can read it instantly. However if they choose not to subscribe in 10 days they can read it. Previously non-subscribers could never read a personal message unless they subscribed.

  14. Elizabeth-976142 April 2, 2014 Reply

    Okay, that said I think that having people read our profiles without being a member is one thing. Honestly I do not think it will be a pay-off for catholic match or the subscribers as if someone truly wants to meet a person of the catholic faith they will make it a priority to become a member. What I do not like about the site is people who are on the site 24/7 send out messages but do not respond and actually tell you where you can meet people that live in the area. Who are they? Does Catholic Match
    have people with profiles working for them, like Jim and Thomas?

    • Victor-544727 April 2, 2014 Reply

      Several of the CM staff have profiles because they occasionally contribute to forum discussions and engage in direct communication with members. Using regular profiles also allows staff to gauge site changes from the members’ perspective. However, all have an instantly-recognizable “CM Staff” label embedded on both their profile pages as well as on the mini-profiles that appear on the search lists and forum placards.

      If anyone is using this site to promote outside interests then they’re doing that on their own and not at the behest or with approval from the people who operate this site. Furthermore, this site strictly forbids the use of this site for the promotion of commercial interests and are usually very prompt in dealing with that on the infrequent occasions in which it does occur. CM is very upfront about what it sponsors and endorses.

  15. Dave-955138 April 1, 2014 Reply

    You have a very good point , Linda 442926. I hope they will reconsider and change this feature.

  16. Linda-442926 April 1, 2014 Reply

    I’m curious as to why, when they are making this change to improve communication, they are keeping the messages locked for 10 days. If someone continues to make contact using emotigrams with no personalized message, then it’s clear they are not subscribers. If someone sends a message, however, and doesn’t hear back for more than 10 days, how would you know whether that person is not a subscriber or just plain uninterested. It’s a step in the right direction, but if it’s really about improving communication, genuine interaction and quality meetings and relationships then there should not be a delay/lock on messages. In real life someone would not wait over a week to read a new email or text or make contact. Likewise IRL, if it took that long for someone you were interested in to make contact, you would probably think that they weren’t that interested in you.

  17. Lori-1020607 April 1, 2014 Reply

    Yes, it’s true and it works perfect. I hope to be a full member soon, just can’t right now. If he’s the one he’ll still be there when I’m a full member. Thank you catholicmatch.

  18. Marie-555415 April 1, 2014 Reply

    One wants to ‘pique’ another’s interest….not ‘peak’ it….

  19. Regina-911983 April 1, 2014 Reply

    It’s about time! It’s the Christian thing to do.

  20. Lisa-993922 April 1, 2014 Reply

    I can’t help noticing, you posted this on April Fool’s Day! Is it really true?

    • Victor-544727 April 1, 2014 Reply

      Yes, this is legit. They’ve been contemplating this for a while.

    • Matthew-877277 April 4, 2014 Reply

      That was my first thought – this must be an April Fools Day joke 🙂

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