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“I was heartbroken. I was failing in the big leagues.” That was 26-year-old Jann Elaine’s assessment of herself after the first contacts she forged on CatholicMatch didn’t work out. Jann Elaine had overcome much hardship in her life. She was a victim of child molestation and then later in life fell into a series of bad relationships. “Although my motives had been pure each time at the beginning, chastity was a burden that was eventually discouraged by my significant others,” she candidly admitted. One day she woke up and realized that her life, as she put it, “had turned dark. Very dark. And by the grace of God, I decided to turn back to His Church and leave my past behind.”

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Jann Elaine was determined to have a healthier dating life. She wanted to meet like-minded Catholics, but her parish and the surrounding area in Idaho did not offer any prospects. She was encouraged to go on CatholicMatch, and after prayer, she decided to join.

Although her first connections didn’t work out, Joshua, 33-years-old and living in Italy, messaged her. He was well-traveled—a Nigerian citizen and officially a resident of London. Jann Elaine was open to an international relationship—the excitement of it even attracted her, and from Joshua’s pictures, she found him attractive as well. “Both of us decided that distance wouldn’t be a factor in the long run. We had more significant terms to align on,” Jann Elaine said, recalling how things unfolded after the initial get-to-know-you messages.

Joshua’s love for God, the Catholic Church and his deep devotion to Our Lady both astounded Jann Elaine and made her interested in knowing more. “I thought ‘Wow, I want to marry this man,’” she said. “I never experienced falling in love so profoundly and completely.” They shared a common upbringing in large families, shared desires for the future and they were each up front and honest with each other about past mistakes. “We talked about our faith, prayers, church activities and lots of other things,” Jann Elaine said. They connected on deep questions, like a love for the Holy Eucharist and a commitment to modesty.

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The relationship had gone from messages to video chats, and now it was time to meet face-to-face. Both freely admitted their anxiety about it, and in May 2013, Joshua flew to the United States. Jann Elaine had envisioned how she wanted to greet him at the airport, but when he got there, she was frozen. “He strolled over and demanded a hug. I laughed and it was back to normal,” she recalled. “He had brought me flowers and chocolate.”

During Joshua’s time in the States, they attended Mass together, said morning and night prayers, and prayed the Rosary. Jann Elaine admitted to having every possible kind of fear during the visit. “I feared that things would fall apart or that he would push me to be intimate. I feared that things would get dull or that he wouldn’t fit in with my life or my family friends. I was so very wrong.” Joshua assured Jann Elaine that her physical boundaries would be respected, and that he in turn expected the same. A man of principle, gentleness and strength, he won the glowing approval of Jann Elaine’s father. “As a daddy’s girl, I was overjoyed,” Jann said.

Before Joshua returned home, he asked Jann Elaine to come and visit him in London in September. So come September, Jann Elaine got on the plane and made her first trip to Europe. Joshua shared with her more of Igbo culture—his Nigerian tribe, and “treated me like a princess.” Joshua was a chivalrous gentleman. One morning after Mass, they were together under a statue of Our Lady of the Rosary. It was there that Joshua proposed marriage and Jann Elaine, who had only dared hope, joyfully accepted. At least it’s assumed she did—“I was crying and smiling so much we can’t remember if I even said yes,” she recalled.

When they video-chatted with Jann’s family back home, it turned out her family wasn’t nearly as surprised as she was. Jann Elaine and Joshua were married this past Saturday. “The church has been wonderfully encouraging with helping us to prepare,” Jann said. “We had a gracious Deacon and completed our marriage prep classes in our respective parishes. The toughest part has been traveling, the legal requirements, the visas, etc, but as my father says, ‘If God wills it to happen, it will happen, seemingly and effortlessly.’”

It has been a long journey for Joshua and Jann Elaine, marked by courageous life changes that set the table for their ultimate happiness.

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  1. Bella-1275421 December 29, 2016 Reply

    I am happy to read such wonderful love stories… Many blessings to Jann and Joshua!

  2. Tom-995241 June 17, 2014 Reply

    Sorry, I don’t see a mixed ethnic relationship, that’s my opinion.

    • Mary-1136150 December 5, 2015 Reply

      Well Tom, I’m Irish and anyone I meet on this site will probably be American. That’s a mixed ethnic relationship. The racial difference is not important, and she seems to love his Nigerian family tradition. Not very Christian of you.

  3. Mannie-1091819 May 21, 2014 Reply


  4. Michelle-989480 May 11, 2014 Reply

    Congratulations ! I loved this heart warming story.

  5. Meesch-691047 May 10, 2014 Reply

    Congratulations! God bless and thank you for sharing your wonderful, God inspired love story!

  6. Michael-931608 May 9, 2014 Reply

    Congratulations! I am so happy for you guys. May your union grow from strength to strength through Christ our Lord. Amen

  7. Meg-920823 May 9, 2014 Reply

    God bless you; so happy for you!!

  8. Marilyn-564493 May 8, 2014 Reply

    congratulations!!!! What a beautiful story, May God bless your marriage …

  9. Yuanyuan-1051885 May 8, 2014 Reply

    Congratulations…i like to see such sweet story ^_^

  10. Hayley-796302 May 8, 2014 Reply

    A Match made in Heaven for sure 🙂 God bless you both & may your lives be filled with much happiness !

  11. Lisa-1017628 May 8, 2014 Reply

    what a beautiful story. Many blessings in your marriage!! 🙂

  12. Rachel-984949 May 8, 2014 Reply

    Congratulaions what a heart warming story and it is restoring hope in my search for a respectful man willing to travel to London from America there are only a few English men on here and so many Americans ; )

  13. Josey-1055310 May 8, 2014 Reply

    Congratulations..Joshua and Jann! Wish you all the happiness in the world..Cheers!

  14. Genevieve-1055759 May 8, 2014 Reply

    Makes me so happy to hear (read)…

  15. Rafael-676471 May 8, 2014 Reply

    God Bless You!! Hope you have a great family together!!,.. ; )

  16. Lina-796057 May 8, 2014 Reply

    What a beautiful couple and story! God bless you both.

  17. Tom-14285 May 8, 2014 Reply

    Congratulations…what a wonderful story. You both look so happy!!

  18. Maria-732002 May 8, 2014 Reply

    congratulation and best wishes to both of you. (Joshua and Jann)

  19. Simon-1037814 May 8, 2014 Reply

    That’s a wonderful story.

  20. Lauren-841301 May 7, 2014 Reply

    What a beautiful story. God bless you both in your marriage — you are both very wonderful people are very blessed to find each other! The Lord is so good!

  21. Jim-13836 May 7, 2014 Reply

    I like their story. True love conquers all, even the distances!

    My Congratulations to Joshua and Jann!

  22. Obianuju-794337 May 7, 2014 Reply

    What a beautiful story?! I am Igbo too so I join others in congratulating Joshua and ‘our beautiful nwunye (wife)’. Chukwu gozie ezinuno unu (God bless your family).

  23. Barbara-863769 May 7, 2014 Reply

    And…I love her dress…it is MODEST, just as she and Jann promised! Wonderful story of the redeeming love of Christ and the God of the second chance! This story offfers so much HOPE to all! Lovely.

  24. Obinna O. May 7, 2014 Reply

    Wow! Sounds like a fairy tale, would love to experience something like what they have, but cant create a profile, its saying “restricted in your area” any help guys?

  25. Okatta U. May 7, 2014 Reply

    congras joshua,nwanne daalu

  26. Madel-1071643 May 7, 2014 Reply

    CONGRATULATIONS!!! I LOVE international relationships!!! 😀
    because i know a bunch of cases where they work out! FELICIDADES!

  27. Sara-979131 May 7, 2014 Reply

    I am so glad to have read this delightful story of overcoming fears and doubts. 🙂

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