Anxious Meeting in Person After Meeting Online



Nerves were a flutter on the day of Nick’s first date with Michelle. The 30-year-old businessman from Spokane, Washington, was trying his best to contain his high expectations. Even though he and Michelle, a 27-year-old Catholic school teacher from Redwood City, California, had hit it off on the phone and in emails, Nick was anxious it wouldn’t be the same in person. Previously, he had met a few women on CatholicMatch and those meetings had fallen flat; “I was hoping and praying that Michelle and I would have that ‘spark’ in person too.”

Seeing her face to face, he was struck by her classy look. “She reminded me of a blonde Kate Middleton (whom I think very highly of),” Nick recalls. Like the duchess, Michelle looked beautiful, dressed stylishly yet modestly, and carried herself with class.

Nick was initially drawn to Michelle’s CatholicMatch profile not only because of her physical beauty, but because she was intelligent and had earned a Masters Degree; she was committed to the Catholic faith and morality, loved traveling, and she grew up in Washington State—his home state. IMG_9052

Although Nick has always been a faithful Catholic, he had never seriously dated anyone who was Catholic before joining CatholicMatch. “As I grew older, I realized how important my faith and religion were to me—including the morality that accompanies being Catholic. I knew deep down I would not be able to be with someone who didn’t share these same feelings.” He says he felt CatholicMatch would be his best opportunity to meet a good spouse because “relationships built around faith have the best chance of succeeding and being the most fruitful.”

For a different couple, the scenario of Nick and Michelle’s first date might have been a disaster, but it was bonding experience for them. They had taken a bus into Seattle for dinner and a Mariner’s game when the packed-to-the-gills bus stalled on a drawbridge crossing for 45 minutes. On a sweltering August day, the bus driver turned the engines off, and Nick and Michelle spent the first minutes of their date watching each other melt. Surprisingly, “the date never felt uneasy or forced,” says Nick.

After 10 hours together, the two decided to meet the next day for coffee before Michelle flew back to San Francisco. “It was then that I invited her to my sister’s wedding for our third date and she accepted. Needless to say, my family was a bit shocked and nervous, but I told them they’d understand when they met her, and they did!”

The couple spent the several months flying back and forth for visits. “It grew increasingly difficult to go a month at a time without seeing each other, so Michelle moved home to Redmond, WA after the school year was finished in June 2013.” Now they had only a 4.5 hour drive to see one another.

On their one-year dating anniversary at a surprise picnic, Nick got down on bended knee and proposed marriage to Michelle. However, he’d known for much longer that he wanted to marry Michelle—way back on their third date when they had attended his sister’s wedding. “I knew then that she was the one I had waited my whole life for.”Michelle & Nick

“I have CatholicMatch to thank for introducing me to Michelle!” Nick recommends that CatholicMatch members “stretch their boundaries, both emotionally and geographically, because a you never knows what God has in store for you unless you’re open to it!”

The couple will profess their wedding vows on July 18, 2014 at St. Aloysius Gonzaga in Spokane, WA.




  1. Bridget-1097461 July 15, 2014 Reply

    you guys are a beautiful couple! congrats!

  2. Joan-684265 July 13, 2014 Reply

    Praise the Lord, that CM set you out to meet each other!

  3. Nessa-1054423 July 10, 2014 Reply

    Congratulations!!!!! Beautiful story!!:)

  4. Leslie-345328 July 10, 2014 Reply

    Beautiful! : )

  5. Vianney-950821 July 10, 2014 Reply

    Congratulations ;P match made in heaven

  6. Nicholas-597354 July 9, 2014 Reply

    Thank you for the nice comments! I have a few extra thoughts that came to me after Lori was finished with our story and I would like to share them with you because I believe it may bring hope to those who read it:

    Like many of you searching for your future spouse, finding Michelle was not an overnight occurrence. Rather, it was a process that took a great deal of time, effort, and patience. I was a CM member for over 2 years before I saw her profile. But please do not get discouraged! It is okay to take small breaks from Catholic Match in order to regroup and rest a bit because honestly searching for the one God intended you to be with can be quite exhausting! Also, as Lori mentioned, do not be afraid to expand your geographical boundaries. If it is God’s will, you will find a way to make it happen. Lastly, do not underestimate the power of prayer. There are Novenas specifically for single people searching and waiting for their soul mate. One that I have prayed can be found at:
    I would like to leave you with a simple prayer that I came up with that I believe helped lead me to Michelle and encourage you to say it as well: “Lord, please let your will be done in finding my future wife/husband. Please protect her/his heart, body, and soul and keep us both holy while we are searching for one another. Thank you Lord. In Jesus’ name. Amen.”
    I believe finding Michelle was an absolute miracle and I pray that you all are blessed with your own miracles! Thank you to Catholic Match (and to Lori for writing a beautiful article) for providing a forum where we are given the opportunity to meet a spouse based on religion and faith! I hope this brings a little hope, comfort, and inspiration to all and I wish you the best in your search. God Bless!

    • Nicholas-976717 July 10, 2014 Reply

      Very inspiring Nick, and the extra advice of yours was awesome and profound. God Bless!

  7. Michelle-989480 July 9, 2014 Reply

    Congratulations to both of you! May you have a wonderful wedding day and a lifetime of blessings.

  8. Abbey-937473 July 9, 2014 Reply

    congratulations and best wishes! thanks for sharing your success story! truly distance isn’t a hindrance or a barrier as long as both are open. Godbless!

  9. Bernard-2709 July 9, 2014 Reply

    Bravo! God Bless you both.May God grant you many years!

  10. Mickey-571450 July 9, 2014 Reply

    Best wishes for the both of you on your wedding day!

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