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I am in the back of the church ready to walk down the aisle, Pachelbel’s Canon in D is playing softly and everyone turns to look. I adjust my shawl, hold my flowers up high and then I say a little prayer that I don’t fall flat on my face in front of the entire church.

Am I the blushing bride ready to meet my prince?

Not this time.

As the saying goes, always the bridesmaid, never the bride. This is my seventh time as a bridesmaid—five of those weddings were for my older sisters.

As a single Catholic, I desired marriage, but I wasn’t ready yet.

So if you are a single Catholic who wants to move forward with your life, how do you get there?

I’d like to share my journey of how I navigated the rough waters of being a single Catholic and the lessons I needed to learn and experience in order to hear what God was inviting me to do with my life.

As a young (ish) professional, my calendar was packed full and I was busy every weekend. In fact, when a guy asked me out, I would tell him yes, but that I wasn’t really available for the next month. I could probably schedule him in if he could let me know ahead of time. I bet you can imagine how that turned out.

From the outside it looked like I was living the young and fun single life, but I was so busy with my own social calendar that I wasn’t aware that I was missing out on the life that I longed for.

As a single person, I always thought there would be another opportunity. I wouldn’t RSVP to a party because I wanted to see if I’d get a better invitation. This happens in dating too, it’s hard to commit to one person because what if the perfect spouse is just around the next corner? I don’t have to commit right now because I have a happy life. I kept telling myself that I was fine.

As a single person, I had it all: I owned my own home, I had good friends, and my dream job. But for some reason it wasn’t enough. I wanted more. There was an emptiness in my heart that I was trying to fill, but nothing in my life at that time would satisfy that inner longing.

This emptiness and longing in my heart eventually motivated me to start praying for a spouse. I started going to daily Mass and praying the Rosary everyday. This was a profound moment of grace. God was inviting me to something deeper and he was asking me to respond.

He put a desire on my heart to pray for my future spouse, but I just hadn’t met “The One” yet. I thought God wasn’t listening, but little did I know he was answering my prayers, just not in the way I expected.

Answered prayers, but not in the way I expected …

It all started with an essay contest that CatholicMatch hosted. As Managing Editor of the CatholicMatch Institute it was my job to judge the essays. We asked members to describe how they have discerned a vocation to marriage and how they were joyfully living out their faith until they meet “The One.”

As the entries came flying in, I realized that I was faced with a great responsibility. How could I honestly judge these essays if I hadn’t discerned God’s path for my own life? I started to think: how do I discern a vocation anyway?

Being a reporter at heart, I talked to many sources. I asked seminarians: how did you know you were called to the priesthood? I asked sisters, how did you know you had a vocation? I asked veteran married couples, how did you know you were in love? How did you know that you finally met the one?

So many married couples said “you just know.” For those of us who are waiting to fall in love that answer feels dissatisfying. And so I continued my quest until one afternoon a good friend of mine asked if I had ever discerned religious life. Having considered it briefly in college, I told her that ship has sailed. My future is being married with a bagillion kids so religious life wouldn’t make me happy.

Me and God had it all worked out. Little did I know that by trying to control every aspect of my future, my heart was not completely open to God’s work.

God you can’t seriously be calling me to religious life now? After all these years?

But with that question remaining on my heart, I had to find out. I didn’t want to wake up when I was 85 and wonder what my life would have been if I had just followed the desires of my heart. I wanted a clear answer.

The joy and happiness that I wanted

So just like that friend you’ve had around for years, but never thought about dating him, so was it like for me with the Franciscan Sisters of the Eucharist. I had been spending time in their young professionals group for years, it just never occurred to me that I might be called to be one of them. But I liked being with the sisters. They had a joy and happiness that I wanted.

So, I went on a vocations retreat with the Franciscan Sisters of the Eucharist and asked: how do I know if I have a religious vocation? I wanted to know for sure before I made any sort of commitment.

The novice mistress paused and calmly said to me: “You can sit on the side of the pool and wonder if the water is cold, but you are never going to know unless you jump in.”

God was asking me to make that leap of faith. No, I wasn’t 100% completely sure, but I felt a desire for this life. So without knowing the perfect plan, I plunged into the water.

How do you know you are called?

As I reflect on my years of praying to know God’s will, I see all the times he was leading my heart. During that time of waiting, he was asking me to trust him and he was preparing my heart to fall in love … with Him.

God knows our hearts. He knows when we are ready to say yes to his will. But He does not force us. He asks us to make a leap of faith. We can either sit on the side of the pool in our safe comfort zone or we can jump in and discover that actually the water is just right.

When I finally made the commitment to discern with the sisters, I came to know a happiness that I had never known before. All the desires and longings that I had were now being fulfilled … just not in the way I expected.

I thought my plan was the best, but God’s will was greater than I had ever imagined.

During my time with the Franciscan Sisters of the Eucharist, I have come to know that God’s love is extravagant. I have a confidence of His love and a firmness that I am his beloved daughter.

As God opens my heart, I also recognize a desire to know and experience more deeply the life of these sisters. This is just like someone who is in a new relationship and he desires to know his beloved more intimately.

Right now I am a postulant with the Franciscan Sisters of the Eucharist. In dating terms, you could say that I’m in an exclusive and committed relationship. At the end of May I will enter more deeply into this life with the next stage as a canonical novice … and this is like my engagement.

The sisters have a nine year engagement as they prepare for final vows. This isn’t a prolonged “getting to know you,” but it is an intense preparation for an extraordinary, life-long union. God willing, I too will be a perpetually professed bride of Christ and on my wedding day I will say yes to a life of chastity, poverty and obedience. Christ himself will be my spouse.

In Pope Francis’ letter “To All Consecrated Life” he said

Religious “are called to know and show that God is able to fill our hearts to the brim with happiness; that we need not seek our happiness elsewhere … and that … total self-giving in service to the Church, to families and young people, to the elderly and the poor, brings … life-long personal fulfillment.”

I am inspired by the witness of priests, nuns, sisters and brothers who had the courage to take a leap, say yes and give their selfless love daily.

While I hope there is one person who reads this that will also take the plunge and consider religious life, the lessons of my journey are easily applied to discerning dating and marriage.

So I would like to thank CatholicMatch for helping me find the perfect man. Indeed I have found the ultimate Catholic Match and I embrace my future with great hope.

Please pray for me and know that I am praying for all of you.



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79 Comments

  1. Andrew-1008566 May 21, 2016 Reply

    So I was listening to the radio yesterday morning on my way to work, and I thought the caller requested “Never Alone” by “God’s Girlfriend”. It turns out I misheard both…or maybe that’s exactly what He wanted me to hear. It certainly reminded me of someone. 😉
    Congratulations Robyn! You have a beautiful love story. I think we all should be able to appreciate it, even if ours turns out quite a bit different.

  2. Paul-1129517 May 20, 2016 Reply

    Congratulations Robyn, I myself have grown to love you for your encouraging words during low moments, and for your commitment to serve the Lord with all your talent.

  3. Jerome-922898 May 19, 2016 Reply

    Robyn, I was married for 51 years. The job God gave me was to take care of my wife. I truly believe she was very special and precious to the lord. I did believe i had finished the job and the lord was finished with me. I was wrong. My job now is to tell everyone how God has given me so many underserved gifts and i am greedily asking for another. I want to be married again. God bless and Keep You. Jerry

  4. Jerry B. May 19, 2016 Reply

    Wow and beautiful!! Thank you for sharing. I think every Catholic should at least consider the religious life. How can one truly discern without considering each option? Know I’m holding you up in prayer. Please do the same for me as I discern my current relationship .! In Christ

  5. JuanJose-1308836 May 19, 2016 Reply

    Thank you for sharing your experiences with us. I am separated already 8 months though apparently is not for good. My wife fired me for jobs stories. Her plan is to go back together when kids finish school in june, in a new stage. I´ve been telling her to go back together all this time. Although grudge and anger have also been there to confuse me things, and make believe that this might be a null marriage. I also pray everyday to find out what God wants me to do, what I MUST do. I´ll pray for you and for the people who still haven’t found their couple… or plan B 🙂 as you have done.
    JJ. Spain.

  6. Jim-1008684 May 18, 2016 Reply

    My daughter, made her perpetual vows a little over a month ago…she is so happy being a nun, and I am so happy for her as well. 🙂

  7. Dawn-1266313 May 18, 2016 Reply

    This is a beautiful story. I can fully understand how you feel and why. I too throughout my 60 years of life, with 2 grown daughters and 2 marriages, one recognized by the church at 19 years of age, which ended due to infidelity on the part of my unfaithful spouse whom broke my heart, have engaged in the thought of giving myself fully to my faith.

    But, the ship has sailed for me and I do believe I will remain searching for the perfect match to my heart. I pray and wish you fulfillment in your journey with Christ. May he bless you and bring you peace.

    Thank you for sharing this. You have no idea how peaceful it makes me feel.
    Dawn

  8. Sophy C. May 18, 2016 Reply

    Dear Robyn Thank you for your lovely and wonderful story. Thank you for your commitment too, to the CM and all the articles you have written – I have always been so impressed and uplifted by them. I pray for your complete fulfilment in your life with Our Lord – in the community of sisters and their way of life and of prayer. Congratulations and love, and many blessings, Sophy

  9. Marcia-63568 May 18, 2016 Reply

    Robyn, I was so very happy to read your story! It’s always fascinating and inspiring for me to hear the story of someone discerning their true vocation, whether it’s being called to religious life or to the vocation of marriage. I wish the best for you always, and I ask for your prayers for myself and all of us who are in the discernment process ourselves. May the Lord richly bless you!

  10. Irene-840598 May 18, 2016 Reply

    That’s wonderful. You have found your true heart’s desire. God Bless.

  11. Frank-174649 May 18, 2016 Reply

    Thanks Robyn for all your help at CM. I am so happy for you and will be praying for you as I know you will for us. I am sure there isn’t a man who can compete with your future spouse. And I am sure He will make you happier than you’ve ever imagined not to mention the mansion that awaits you in the next world! Peace, and God Bless you. Frank

  12. Ludmilla-1280543 May 18, 2016 Reply

    Robyn,
    Thank you for sharing your story about your vocation. It was a very interesting read! God bless you. I was a nun for 6 years and you are making a wonderful step with the Lord. I really do hope it will be a fruitful experience for you with the Lord. My prayers are with you and thank you for the courage to say “yes” to Jesus you future spouse. God bless you Robyn and please keep me in your prayers as now I am discerning to find the right partner in my life! 🙂 Again, Congrats and God bless!
    Ludmilla

  13. Sandra-963593 May 18, 2016 Reply

    I wish that I could have attended your ceremony! I would have sobbed my eyeballs out!! I am so excited for you! I just responded to your earlier post, so I won’t go on here, except to say that you have made a choice that is extraordinary and rare. God will reward you amply, and all of us will be better for having you among the religious! Sending you my love and best wishes for the next leg of your journey on earth! I will remember and pray for you! God bless you always!!!

  14. P M. May 17, 2016 Reply

    Robyn,

    I guess sometimes The Lord calls the most beautiful women to him….
    Never really thought that this would be your destiny.
    Look up Brother Guy…he’s now the Director of The Vatican Observatory and he has somewhat of the same kind of story.

    As for myself, I started dating this girl (been 30 years) that I met online…not through Catholic Match or any other Singles group…basically we share common interests..It’s quite unique to find a girl that likes stargazing and has run for office.
    I don’t know if it will end in marriage or not but she’s giving me attention that I’ve never gotten from anyone before!

    I wish you the very best!

    May God Bless you!

    Sincerely,

    P Edward Murray

  15. Bobby-1317318 May 17, 2016 Reply

    God bless you

  16. Ann-1295310 May 17, 2016 Reply

    Mike,
    You do not belong on this site. Nor are you or do you understand Catholicism. Jesus is our example, and He
    chose a life without sex (as you chose to list 1st), no prosperity (your second choice) and no male to female relationship. His way is an example of how to give our whole self to God. He asked the same of his apostles
    and told them that they would suffer for that choice. They did willingly. They did His will!

    • Mike-1305265 May 19, 2016 Reply

      Ann, my list of “choices” are what Robyn had stated. Unfortunately, you should read your Catholic bible more. I’m not saying it’s wrong to be chaste for God. I am chaste, obedient as a human can be and human at the same time. When a person can answer why God states that if a man cannot take care of his own family, how can he take care of God’s family, perhaps you will realize that he is talking about marriage of a minister which contains sexual relation. The Catholic religion says a person can’t be married to be a priest or a nun not God.

      God commands for us to be born again in spirit. When you are, religion falls away. Catholism is a religion. Yet, God states that the religion He sees as pure is one who takes care of widows and orphans and stays away from the sin of the world. Most Catholics are not born again and Satan is leading many into darkness. I understand catholism very well. Half truth, half deception. Ask, seek and knock… For anyone who asks, God will give him the Holy Spirit. The pope is as human and as fallible as the next guy and he doesn’t over ride God’s word. Read the last paragraph of Revelation and see what happens to those people. When God calls you… He calls you to this truth, to a new standard of living and you don’t have to give up a whole life of blessing to gain His acceptance or work your way to salvation. Yes, I’m Catholic and saved through a catholic priest. Only 20% of priests are born again. That means 80% are telling some kind of ferry tales. It’s your life, your destiny, your eternal future. I would surely do a double check on what is absolute truth!

      • Andrew-1008566 May 21, 2016 Reply

        Mike, a lot of what you said contradicts the Bible as well as the catechism. I’ll try to explain some of it to you, but you should check out CatholicAnswers because I don’t have time to explain everything and the people there can do a much better job of it than I can.
        1. It doesn’t make much sense that a person could simply be “born again in spirit” and suddenly they can just do anything, no matter how terrible, and still be saved. Also this link explains how “once saved always saved” contradicts the Bible: http://www.catholic.com/tracts/assurance-of-salvation.
        2. “The pope is as human and fallible as the next guy”–in Matthew 16:18-19, Jesus says “You are Peter, and upon this rock I will build my church…whatever you bind on earth shall be bound in heaven and whatever you loose on earth shall be loosed in heaven.” Catholic Tradition holds that Peter was the first pope, and all popes are infallible when speaking authoritatively on matters of faith and morals. Of course, if God is allowing the pope to speak infallibly, he must also be protecting him from contradicting the Bible.
        3. “Only 20% of priests are born again”–I don’t know this comes from. Every priest I’ve ever met was baptised, which is the Catholic understanding of what the Bible says it means to be born again. (Maybe more correct is “born from above” and “born of the spirit”, which are the only terms Jesus uses in John 3 of the Catholic bible I am using.
        4. “I understand catholicism very well. Half truth, half deception.” If that’s what you think, don’t be Catholic! Maybe you can understand after saying that why I can’t take your claims seriously that God doesn’t actually want Catholics to take a vow of celibacy or a vow of poverty.

  17. Dominic-981542 May 17, 2016 Reply

    To join the Church as a NUN or Monk is the ultimate vocation

  18. Mike-1305265 May 17, 2016 Reply

    Chasity, poverty and obedience. I consider this choice to be your choice. God never proclaims poverty in the bible. He teaches prosperity if you are obedient to His word. Being chaste while single is part of that obedience. He teaches that a minister is to be the husband of one wife, not chasity. He teaches that being born again in spirit guarantees eternal life with Him. Our names then go into the Lambs Book of Life. The Holy Spirit dwells in us filling is with love because the Holy Spirit is God and God is love.
    God calls those who are reborn in His Spirit saints, priests and kings!!!

    I’m a 59 yr old born again Catholic and never married. I have all that I speak of above and so much more. Yet, I weep more than I want to because my desire is to have a companion I can intimately love because I have so much of His love inside that I need to give it away in marriage besides in my service to others.

    Anyone can serve God being married or single. To martyr a life for less of all He has to give is a religious belief that bears no evidence of a personal relationship with God.

    Don’t get me wrong. It’s wonderful that you want to be a nun. But, to make God sound like He is leading a perfectly healthy person into a life of no sex, no prosperity, no male to female relationship sounds extremely contradictory to His teachings. If a person decides that’s what they want to do because they have given up on waiting for the man or woman that may come along… that is their choice. It’s also a persons choice to devote their entire life to serve God as a single person. But it really gets to me when that single person decides to vow poverty? That’s a curse not a blessing!

  19. Patricia E. May 17, 2016 Reply

    Robin may God bless you as you continue in your journey. Thank you for all your work for Catholic Match.

  20. Patricia E. May 17, 2016 Reply

    May God continue to bless you as you begin your journey. Thank you for all your work for Catholic Match.

  21. Jerry-1273575 May 17, 2016 Reply

    WE WILL MISS YOUR BITS OF WISDOM BUT KNOW THAT YOUR TALENTS WILL BE USED IN A MORE BLESSED WAY AND CONTINUE TO HELP OTHERS.

  22. Jerry-1273575 May 17, 2016 Reply

    OH ROBYN, WHAT A WONDERFUL DECISION YOU HAVE MADE. I ‘LL PRAY FOR YOU REGULARLY. AND I WILL PRAY THAT THE LORD GIVE ME A TINY BIT OF YOUR COURAGE TO DO HIS WILL. GOD BLESS YOU NOW AND ALWAYS.
    JERRY A. 1203857 MAY 17th.

  23. Kathleen-1252588 May 17, 2016 Reply

    Many Blessings. A Beautiful Story.

  24. Kevin-321044 May 17, 2016 Reply

    God speed to you on your journey. You could not have picked a better groom.
    Wish I’d had the courage to follow that call. Instead, I married a very sweet girl, but it was never to be.
    Have had too many people ask why I didn’t become a priest, even some of the women on here at CM as well saying I would be better suited for that than marriage.
    Unfortunately, that ship truly has sailed. At 59, nobody in and congregation will accept me, and I am told, too old to be a deacon.
    So, I am happy for you.
    Kevin

  25. Barbara-819000 May 17, 2016 Reply

    What a heart warming message. God be with you as you begin This new journey.

  26. Rick-922555 May 17, 2016 Reply

    A friend of mine has 2 daughters who were called to become sisters. One of them made her final vows in February. What a beautiful “wedding” ceremony to be able to attend. Her radiance & joy filled the room at the reception that followed. God Bless you as you continue your journey Robyn! My prayers go with you.

  27. Mariana-1246244 May 17, 2016 Reply

    CONGRATULATIONS! My prayings for you!

  28. Elaine-1187257 May 17, 2016 Reply

    I feel a joy that you have embraced your calling. So many sisters and nuns understand and know so much and see it all with eyes of love. It’s uplifting to know such people.

  29. James-676819 May 17, 2016 Reply

    I am so moved by your story, Robyn. The Lord works in mysterious ways……..and you are on that journey to be the BRIDE of CHRIST as you progress prayerfully in your time of POSTULANCY (asking the Lord for a share in HIM ). Meridien is BLESSED TO HAVE YOU start your journey in this time of great hope and expectation.

  30. Lee T. May 17, 2016 Reply

    At the age of 89 and a lifelong practicing Catholic and a veteran of 3 marriages I have experience as a reference for my views. I will comment on the choice of the vocation you have selected. My sister and her best friend both became Sisters of Mercy upon graduation from high school and both of them renounced their vows after 20+ years of religious life and although neither one of them shared their reasons with me I always guessed they made their choice at a very vulnerable point in their lives and both regretted their decision. I graduated from a Catholic school and have nothing but admiration for the dedication of the nuns who taught me there. But the joy I experienced in my marriages (I have been widowed for 5 years) leads me to suggest married life as the opportunity for a most fulfilling life. Good luck in your choice!

  31. Marta-1141550 May 17, 2016 Reply

    AMAZING. I loved every letter you’ve been writing along this years, and love how your search has finally ended, with the perfect Catholic Match. Love your courage to take a leap and wish you the BIGGEST LOVE, because you deserve it. Thank you for writing and praying for us.

  32. Heather M. May 17, 2016 Reply

    God bless you, and wishing you many years of happiness in your new life, Robyn!
    I pray we all have the ears to hear the calling we are meant for and the courage to follow the path He has set for us!!!

  33. Suzy D. May 17, 2016 Reply

    Congratulations Robyn! Your prayers for your vocation have been answered!
    May God bless you in your journey.

    Thank you for your kindness, prayers and years of caring for us on CM.

    Suzy

  34. Suzy D. May 17, 2016 Reply

    Congratulations Robyn! I am so happy for you and your discernment of your vocation
    to become a Nun! Your prayers for happiness have been answered.

    Suzy

  35. Carolyn M. May 17, 2016 Reply

    Congratulations, I am very happy for you, yours is a beautiful love story. I am sure it will be an inspiration to many Catholic ladies. Thank you for all of your heart felt posts, I truly enjoyed them. You are into prayers. God Bless You, and I hope you are filled with joy in your new life. Carolyn

  36. Jonathan-612626 May 17, 2016 Reply

    Congratulations on finding and taking the better life in God, Robyn! Thank for your great sacrifice and witness to our Lord Jesus Christ and Catholic Religion. May God give you with Fidelity and His Wisdom in your religious life! You will be in my prayers, and thank you for keeping this sinner in yours as well.

  37. Arturo-535613 May 17, 2016 Reply

    I’m sure you will not be referred to as Sister Robyn henceforth, by your fellow sisters….hope that the Order will give you an awesome ” postulant name.” All the best

  38. Mike-1187134 May 17, 2016 Reply

    We are not actually living our life; we are living a life that God gave to us. It’s about him. What is our role? Our challenge is to know God better, to love him more, and to serve him well. These passages come to mind: Proverbs 3:5-6, Matthew 6:33, Romans 8:28, and 1 Corinthians 2:9. Congratulations, Robyn!!!

  39. Margaret H. May 17, 2016 Reply

    I always wondered why such an amazing woman was not married ten times already! God bless and good luck.

  40. Kay-601909 May 17, 2016 Reply

    Best wishes Robyn. I felt called the other way…At 18 years old I entered the convent then felt God was calling me to marriage and children. But years later, out of the convent, that has not happened. The will of God is not easy to discern but we can always hope and pray that God will lead us to our greater good.

  41. Bob-1227754 May 17, 2016 Reply

    Oh Robyn. I’m so happy for you.

  42. Diane-1285292 May 17, 2016 Reply

    Congratulations on stepping out in faith to become a Bride of Christ, Robyn! As we say at the end of Mass, “Go in Peace to Love and Serve the World!” You are a blessing to all of us and an inspiration!

  43. Alan W. May 17, 2016 Reply

    Way too many times have I been in a church singles group either Catholic or Protestant and asked a lady for a date and she would say no. She’d say Jesus is my boyfriend or I’m in love with Jesus. Man was that bad. Jesus would probably speak on this subject not like that at all. I’m sure he wanted us to all be fulfilled in marriage and happiness it’s just that it’s not easy to find the right one. For those of us who still are looking after 20-30 years or more with disappointment that our prayers were not answered should probably learn to cast our nets on the other side.
    God wants you to know that you are loved so much that even if the right person doesn’t come along that your love for God and his for you is more important and your faith in him will show you that even though in reality you can’t find me right that there is someone who loves you more. Who is and always will be. Gods Love.

  44. Bill-1226363 May 17, 2016 Reply

    What you shared is another kind of love story, It’s beautiful. If only people on Catholic Match could all surrender to the call from Jesus as to receive His love for us the way He desires then we will all be in right relationships. You have heeded the call. God Bless you! ” my heart does not rest until it rests in the O’ Lord.” St. Augustine. Deacon Bill

  45. Sri S. May 17, 2016 Reply

    Robyn, I am so happy for you, and I believe our Lord more than happy for you. Personally I thank you for your guidance when I was in catholicmatch and eventually found my husband in catholic match . I am in a very happy marriage now and I pray for your happiness with what you found and live with. God bless you.

  46. Mercy K. May 17, 2016 Reply

    Congratulations Robyn,

    I think that the service, guidance and Companionship you offered to all the cm members were in a certain way God’s way to prepare you for your future … you will be a wonderful spiritual director to all Catholic people looking for marriage… you do have now plenty of experience …

    May your new path be filled with more joy Than sorrow, with fortitude and unwavering Faith..

  47. Rebecca H. May 17, 2016 Reply

    Congratulations. It is with great joy I read of someone who has found her vocation. I pray you find true joy and love as you grow as a Franciscan sister.

  48. Lester M. May 17, 2016 Reply

    Awesome! God truly works in mysterious ways! All the best… prayers and blessings- from India.

  49. Mitzi-1244192 May 17, 2016 Reply

    Congratulations, Robyn! I’m so happy for you! God bless you for listening to Him and being open to His will for you.

  50. Wally-41528 May 17, 2016 Reply

    Robyn, you are so blessed! Thank you for sharing your wonderful story and for having the courage to answer his call. You are an inspiration to us all, and will be in our prayers. God bless you!

  51. Becky H. May 17, 2016 Reply

    Wow! I did not see this coming, but am happy for you, nonetheless. What an irony: your blog this past January about how to communicate more effectively on online dating sites led me to the man that I have now been dating for over four months. He is Catholic and we are dating exclusively. So thank you for your legacy and many blessings to you on your new life chapter!

  52. Luci-1272222 May 17, 2016 Reply

    AWESOME!! I wish for you the best of blessings! You have the best love ever!

  53. Julianna-888933 May 17, 2016 Reply

    Congratulations, Robyn! I wish you the best. I went on a vocations retreat with the Franciscan Sisters of the Eucharist several years ago. They seem like beautiful, joy-filled ladies. God bless.

  54. Catherine-996317 May 17, 2016 Reply

    Robyn, my (our) prayers will be with you! You’re an inspiration to me. Following the call of the Spirit takes great courage and fortitude, gifts that the Spirit itself can help sustain in you.
    I wish you great joy!

  55. Jane-1298530 May 17, 2016 Reply

    Congratulations and my prayers are with you on this wondrous journey! Many daily blessings to you and please keep us updated if you can. This is so inspiring and I am beaming with joy for you! God bless and thank you for your sacrifice and prayers.

  56. Cristo-1001087 May 16, 2016 Reply

    Congratularions! Thank you for dating yes to God! He will never betray you! Thank you for your prayers On our behalf!

  57. Julie-434302 May 16, 2016 Reply

    I love your message! Very exciting. All the best to you.

  58. Jonathon-1319038 May 16, 2016 Reply

    CaroleElaine, I understand what you mean. I am very grateful for people in vocations, and I pray for the nuns at our school. They are just the neatest ladies. I’m coming from the position that most of us came onto CM because we believe we were called to be married. When people suggest that maybe I should have gone into the priesthood I bristle.

    We had two articles today that while wonderful on their own, when connected to a dating site would give me pause. If I was not a member, I wouldn’t be to eager to join a site that I thought was going to push me towards a direction I didn’t want to go. God can do that.

    I hope and pray that God will lead me to someone I can love. And while I feel sorrow for your loss, I also feel envy for your marriages. You sound so happy when you talk about them. I could never hope for higher praise than I hear from you when you speak about your husbands. So in that light, I am really counting on CM. And no priesthood. I think I may be too old for that anyway (like the draft). But why would God plant such strong desire in me and then have other plans? Isn’t that what calling is about?

    • Christopher-1116484 May 17, 2016 Reply

      Jonathan, I’m very sorry that this upsets you. True discernment means giving up control of your future to God’s Will. Robyn did and received a wonderful response. I pray that you open yourself to that kind of discernment, and it leads you to happiness and joy. And if that means marriage, I hope you find her quickly and that she fulfills your desires. Peace and joy to you.

    • Meaghan-1317400 May 17, 2016 Reply

      Be open to God. Just because you want something doesn’t mean God wants it for you – Satan can just as easily pull an attractive wall over your eyes as God tries to show you the way. God bless you! I hope that you find fulfillment here at the same time God finds fulfillment in you.

  59. Pat-5351 May 16, 2016 Reply

    Robyn, I am happy for you as you seek your vocation. God bless you for saying “yes.”

  60. Sarah-1305833 May 16, 2016 Reply

    I have been thinking much about the concept revealed by the Pope’s words–that God is able and willing to fill our hearts to the brim. We are called to different things–I desire marriage and family in a big way–and God has a place for all of us. I am at a stage in life where many things are coming together, and still something big is missing. Thank you for the encouragement that, whether God calls me to marriage or single life, there is a place for me and for each of us. He is good, and He is faithful. Thank you for sharing your beautiful story.

  61. Jonathon, You have the sweetest heart, a good mind … God leads us toward a path He has destined for us … He is already there to receive our thoughts, and always His Love.
    We are all led in different directions of wondrousness, when we truly believe.
    My path, He made for me, allowed me to love two good men, two beloved Husbands, and He called them home, however, allowed me to hold them, be with them at the end. From my arms to Jesus…
    Never stop believing your future is just the way God plans for your forever happiness … Trust Him …

  62. awwww A beautiful story of love for He, Sister Robyn… God Bless You… Feeling and praying for your joy…

  63. Lily-1280601 May 16, 2016 Reply

    great story!! I enjoyed it very much, and your witness acts as a story of encouragement and love. Thanks for sharing! Love, a sister in Christ

  64. Anne-1158588 May 16, 2016 Reply

    I agree with Meg, and am happy to hear about this. We all should be striving to do God’s will. Not everyone is called to the same thing, and thank God for that! How can we say we are truly open to God’s will if are not open to different possibilities? I have accepted that I might never marry, although that is not what I desire. The point is, I have accepted this possibility. Now I have never felt the call to be a nun, but consider it to be a noble calling to be the bride of Christ. My point is, and I think Robyn’s as well, is that we need to be open to the will of God in our lives and remember that he knows best how to make us happy. He does not force his will on us. We need to go to him, continuously, and ask him to guide our steps. I hope someday to be as happy about my vocation as Robyn is. I know as a mother I am tickled pink everyday with the love of my boys. They are my greatest blessings. Be open. You may be pleasantly surprised at what happens. Congratulations Robyn! 🙂 God bless.

  65. Meg-1096961 May 16, 2016 Reply

    This article makes me so happy!!! Thank you for sharing your journey and congratulations on moving forward to this next step!!! Thank you for demonstrating in your own life that our first duty and great honor is to find and embrace God’s will. In my own experience, the must wonderful things so often look scary and strange at first. And yet… Grace draws us in and we discover the beauty and perfection and joy of God’s perfect providence. Prayers and love, Robyn. – Megan

  66. Jonathon-1319038 May 16, 2016 Reply

    A well written article, but is this really the message you think we want/need to hear right now?

    • Christopher-1116484 May 17, 2016 Reply

      Yes! Robyn found her match and discerned her vocation! You don’t feel glorious and grateful to our Lord for this wonderful story?If you think marriage is the only vocation we should be allowed to discern here, you’re missing the point.

      • Sue P. May 17, 2016 Reply

        I agree. This brings tears to my eyes and such hope in my heart that even unmarried I just may be fulfilling His desires for my life. I am deeply blessed by this news and true love story!!

    • Brian-1069875 May 17, 2016 Reply

      Why not the message we need to hear? Like all of us, Robyn was seeking to fill a void in her life, and she found what she was looking for. I think that gives us hope that we might still find who or what we are looking for–and gives us another perspective on filling that void at the same time. I am happy for her, and hopeful for the future.

    • Meaghan-1317400 May 17, 2016 Reply

      Contrary to what you think, I think this is the PERFECT thing for us to feel right now. Many people, especially single people and dating sites, scoff at religious life, like you just did. It might seem an abhorrence to even MENTION the religious life, because why the heck are you on a dating site if you might have a vocation….and the answer is simple. Too many people live in denial. Too many people live in this state where “I am not holy enough” or “Ew, nun life is so uncool” are common thoughts. That is our society talking. Not God. We NEED this bonk on the head. ESPECIALLY here. Because we, single Catholics, are and only are, the futures of religious vocation.

    • Antonio-1325713 May 17, 2016 Reply

      Yes, this is REALLY the message we all think/want to know and hear right now. This is CM and she got her MATCH with the ULTIMATE person, God, should we all be so lucky, All of us here, whatever the road leads us to, will be God’s will, our plans are already laid out by HIM, we just have to work at it and they will come true.”Jesus I trust in YOU”…Robyn will be our light forever at CM..God Bless and Keep her always…!!!

    • Kathy-1118225 May 17, 2016 Reply

      Congratulations, Robyn, and thanks so much for sharing your story!

    • Jacqueline-198 May 17, 2016 Reply

      Yes why not?! It shows us to trust God always as He knows the plans that are best for us, all we have to do is trust in Him implicitly.

    • Jeff-1307710 May 18, 2016 Reply

      Robyn,

      Thank you for sharing your story, it is courageous and inspiring.

      Congratulations!

      Jeff

      To those who do not read the forums, Jonathan has posted many times there in the past few weeks, and I have found him to be compassionate, thoughtful and devout in all of the postings that I have read (except for this one). I do not know why he expressed himself this way, but please do not judge him too harshly, he seems like a genuinely good man.

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