What the Sacred Heart of Jesus Can Teach You About Love


Sacred Heart of Jesus

Often times as a single person, life can feel incomplete becuase our hearts long for someone to love. We pray, “Dear Lord, I’m so alone, why do I feel so empty?” Or “Why can’t I find love? What’s wrong with me?” or “Being single is such a burden, so exhausting, can’t you make it stop (especially since I’m getting older or sooooo single and ready to mingle!)” Well, the good Lord tells us to take heart; not just any heart however, but His very own Sacred Heart. He tells us, “learn from me” (Matthew 11:29). Look at my heart and make your heart like mine…There you will find the answers to your prayers.

So what does the Sacred Heart of Jesus have to teach us about being single? It gives us three big clues to get to the heart of what it takes to find happiness as a single person. These clues are that we are not alone, that there is nothing wrong with us, and being single is a blessing, not a burden if we understand love.

1. You are not alone: First, the Sacred Heart tells us to look and see we are not alone. Jesus shows us in His Sacred Heart that He can relate to us because, well, He was single too! He shows us that even though we are single, we should not feel empty because our hearts still function without a girlfriend or boyfriend. Jesus as God took on flesh in the Incarnation and since God is love (1John 4:18), that means that love is embodied in the human person. God’s love is embodied in each of us in a unique way; in a way that nobody else can manifest. This is why in the image of the Sacred Heart; we see Jesus giving a blessing. It is like He is telling us, look at the blessing that you are first, then you will be enlightened to the path that you need to walk in order to find the love your heart seeks.

2. There is nothing wrong with you: Next, the Sacred Heart tells us there is nothing wrong with us because we are single and once we can realize this we can learn to find love. Jesus shows us His reply to these two heartfelt prayers (is there something wrong with me and I can’t find love) by observing His heart and the flame. Notice that the heart is there which is symbolic of love, but also notice that there is a burning flame going forth from it. Now what would happen if this flame did not go outward, but went inward? It would consume the heart and destroy it. It is the same with us. If the flame or desire of our hearts are focused inward, then it will only end up destroying us, but if that flame is pointed outward, it can allow love to be made manifest and so can give us light and guide us. So Jesus tells us in His Sacred Heart, to find love and not be empty we must be other-oriented and not self-serving.

This is why John Paul II would say that man “cannot fully find himself except through a sincere gift of himself.” We must look for specific ways to give of the unique gifts that God has enlightened us too in Jesus’ first reply and in doing so we will find love and fulfillment.

3. Being single is a blessing, not a burden: This brings us to the third lesson we can learn from the Sacred Heart of Jesus about being single; namely that it can seem to be a burden, but if we look with the heart of Christ, it can be a blessing. Jesus shows us this in His heart being surrounded by thorns and having the cross hovering above it in the image. We have to ask ourselves, why didn’t Jesus take away the cross when He showed us His Sacred Heart? We ask the same question in our heartfelt prayer, “Why do you keep me single? Why do I have to carry this cross?” Well it is because through sacrifice or the cross, love is not only manifested, but made perfect (which is another reason there is a flame as fire purifies).

We know that true love doesn’t just look perfect on the outside like “friends” who hang out with you only because you can make them laugh or get them some free food from the place you work. True love hangs around you when it hurts, supports you through thick and thin, in good times in bad. It can motivate you to do amazing things, things you never would have dreamed of if you were not pushed to do so because of sacrificial love.

If seen in this light, the cross can then be seen not as a curse, but a blessing! God is calling us to not only do amazing things, but BE AMAZING people while we’re single and this call to live out our greatness is truly a blessing!

As single people, we can take heart in this. Our heartfelt prayers about our love-lives are answered in a new prayer which we can learn by gazing at the Sacred Heart of Jesus. This new prayer is, “Jesus, meek and humble of heart, make my heart like unto thine.” Amen.




  1. Gisela-988353 September 10, 2013 Reply

    Thank you! This was beautiful!
    God bless you!

  2. Chisa-838425 August 4, 2013 Reply

    God Bless you Gerard. This article has Blessed my life. I am not alone, Jesus is by my side

    • GerardMarie-995015 August 9, 2013 Reply

      Chisa! Continue to allow the Sacred Heart to bless your life!!! As long as you dwell in this wonderful heart, you will realize that everything is a blessing and a gift of love from Him! God bless.

  3. Chiquita A. July 20, 2013 Reply

    Absolutely amazing and definitely a message that I needed to see in a brand new light! I think at times the being single causes me to feel like “Oh I know I need to trust God but there has got to be something deeper that I can hold onto and take with me in my daily struggles with being alone” – This was absolutely perfect seeing and understanding that God not only has given me such a strong desire to Love and be Loved, but that through his most passionate Love for me; he reminds me that he has my best interest at the center of his heart. And through the refinement of my heart; he will faithfully match my desire with the gift of understanding God’s sacrificial Love for me to live an amazing life whether I remain single or am blessed to one day share in the sacrament of marriage.

  4. Ralph-728570 July 17, 2013 Reply

    This article puts a light on a priest sermon that I heard two months ago, The good father
    simple said; When we pray to God tell him that we love him too! And it does work! every
    time that I pray, My prayers are for others. By simply telling God that we love him opens
    a door into our soul and little by little the Holy Trinity starts to burn outward! Don’t smother the embers! But use it like a blacksmith and forge your soul to take on the heat
    that God gives and love will come. Thank you Gerard!

  5. MaryAlice-964548 July 17, 2013 Reply

    How very true! Jesus is my Lord,and my God, He is my friend, my companion, my love and my spouse. I can trust Him always to be there for me, whether in sorrowful times or in happy times. I need not have any fears or worries, for the Sacred Heart is always with me. Thank you Jesus for loving me so much!!

    • GerardMarie-995015 July 29, 2013 Reply

      Jesus is the love of God made flesh. Keep experiencing the Father’s love. God bless you MaryAlice.

  6. Ruby-991269 July 17, 2013 Reply

    Well done. This is what I need.

    • GerardMarie-995015 July 29, 2013 Reply

      Ruby, Continue to go to the source of living water who is our Lord. He gives us all we need and more (Is. 55:1-3). God bless.

  7. Kim-989867 July 17, 2013 Reply

    More of Him and less of me. He wants us to be consoled by Him, to love Him 1st and formost, He should always be the desire of our heart! JMJ

    • GerardMarie-995015 August 9, 2013 Reply

      Kim. Well said!!! May Jesus, Mary, and Joseph be with you always. God bless.

  8. Anne-672590 July 16, 2013 Reply

    That is a beautiful reminder as a single person to be amazing and do amazing things. To seek for my heart to be like His.

  9. Helena-990451 July 16, 2013 Reply

    Not on our time but the LORDS TIME, HE KNOWS WHAT WE NEED,
    Jesus I trust in you!!!

  10. Esther-532964 July 16, 2013 Reply

    Wonderful article! My Mom taught me to pray to the Sacred Heart of Jesus. It is a wonderful, and moving prayer. Thank you for writing this article.

    • GerardMarie-995015 August 9, 2013 Reply

      Esther, What a wonderful name!!!! May the Sacred Heart continue to always guide your heart to the prayer and blessings that God has in store. God bless.

  11. Lia-74118 July 15, 2013 Reply

    Thank you for this wonderful article. It has strengthened my devotion to the Sacred Heart of Jesus. And it’s so enlightening…

    • GerardMarie-995015 July 29, 2013 Reply

      Lia, You can’t go wrong with the Sacred Heart. Continue to grow in this devotion and you will grow in finding your heart’s desire. God bless and said a prayer for you and your intentions.

  12. Jobina-985883 July 15, 2013 Reply

    So great and well stated it reminds me of being a single blessedness….Amen

  13. Alice-788574 July 15, 2013 Reply

    Separated at the time. Oh the glories of technology.

    • GerardMarie-995015 July 29, 2013 Reply

      Alice, Be not afraid. God has a plan. I will say a prayer for you and your intentions. God bless.

  14. Safiya-264292 July 15, 2013 Reply

    Awww I love this. l will remind myself of these 3 points over and over and over again.

    • GerardMarie-995015 July 29, 2013 Reply

      Safiya. 3 is a great thing to remember, 3 Person in the Trinity, 3 signs of time (past, present, and future) and 3 things to remind us of God’s love. God bless you and looking forward to future replies.

  15. Alice-788574 July 15, 2013 Reply

    About 4 years ago, I made a very special consecration to three Sacred Heart and wear a ring as a reminder of fidelity and purity. I was separated asset the time. Jesus strengthened me and healed me as I walked the path of divorce and annulment. He still does. He may bring the man He had in mind from the beginning into my life, or not. Either way i belong to Him!

  16. Leanne-387609 July 14, 2013 Reply

    What an interesting take on the Sacred Heart.

    • GerardMarie-995015 July 29, 2013 Reply

      Leanne. Thanks for the comment. Looking forward to hearing from you in the future.

  17. Kathryn-872445 July 14, 2013 Reply

    Wow. This is excellent perspective! How often we forget that Jesus, the very embodiment of love himself, was not married. As Gerard so aptly points out, we have a blessed opportunity to be amazing and great not tomorrow, not when we’re married, but right now!

    Thanks very much for the article, Gerard.

  18. Kelly-984108 July 14, 2013 Reply

    This is so beautiful it leaves me lost for words! Amen xx

    • GerardMarie-995015 July 29, 2013 Reply

      Kelly, I’m glad it moved you. Continue to keep your heart open and beautiful things will come. God bless and I will offer a Rosary in thanksgiving for you as well as for your intentions.

  19. Pedyne-248823 July 14, 2013 Reply

    Thank you for this post. Beautifully said.

  20. Thess-977061 July 14, 2013 Reply

    Very inspiring and true. Feeling alone and empty brings me closer to God. Seek first the kingdom of God and everything shall be added unto you. God is the greatest provider and will give what our heart desires if we place Him first in our hearts. amen

  21. Kristin-926543 July 14, 2013 Reply

    This was a beautiful article thank-you for reminding us of the beautiful Sacred Heart of Jesus.

  22. Lori-989513 July 14, 2013 Reply

    This is so true, as long as we have the Sacred Heart of Jesus we are truly blessed. Being alone is helps strengthen our love for him.

  23. Evan-939611 July 14, 2013 Reply

    Yea I have this pic on my altar. It hurts being alone, but I must pick this cross back up. Thank you!

  24. Diana-956573 July 14, 2013 Reply


    Thank you Gerard Anthony.


    • GerardMarie-995015 July 28, 2013 Reply

      Your welcome Diana. I will offer up a Rosary for you and your intentions. Look forward to hearing from you with my next posting.

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